Every year, there are slightly over two million new marriages in the US. Before many couples finally tie the knot, they get engaged.
While some cultures place huge emphasis on engagements and use a lot of formal traditions, getting engaged isn’t very regimented for most American couples. That can prove a good thing if you’re not big on traditions. Unfortunately, it has also left a lot of room for myths to spring up around engagement.
Are you thinking about proposing or broaching the subject of getting engaged with your significant other? Keep reading and we’ll debunk some of the common engagement myths you might have picked up from the wedding industry.
Your Partner Should Pick Out Your Ring
Picking out jewelry for a significant other often proves tricky even when it’s just a gift for a birthday or holiday. It can take years before a significant other can reliably pick jewelry you’ll like.
Expecting that you’re significant other will pick out exactly the right engagement ring asks a little too much. Especially with the jewelry industry rolling out new types of wedding bands all the time.
Are you really confident trusting that they’ll get you that marquis and not a square radiant diamond ring? The least you can do is offer some pointers. You can even take them onto a website like The Art Of Jewels and help them design the ring of your dreams.
It’s One Person’s Responsibility to Propose
Back in the middle of the 20th Century, there was probably some credence to the idea that the man in the relationship should propose. These days, gender norms are very different. Not to mention that the Supreme Court made gay marriage legal across the country.
You should discuss the basic features of a proposal with your significant other, including who should do the asking.
Engagement Should Last a Specific Length of Time
There is no magic number of months that a couple should remain engaged before they finally have a wedding. For some couples, a long engagement works fine. For others, it’s mostly a gesture to keep older, more reserved relatives happy.
If you haven’t started planning your wedding, though, a one or two-year engagement is often a practical choice. It gives you time to hammer out the countless details that go into a wedding. For example, picking a date that works for most of the people you want at the wedding.
Ignore Getting Engaged Myths
Despite what wedding industry magazines might try to sell you, there is no universal right way of getting engaged. Getting engaged should focus on the couple meeting each other’s expectations.
That means talking with your significant other about the elements of getting engaged that matter to both of you. That conversation should cover things like who will propose, the length of the engagement, and what kind of engagement ring you may want.
Looking for more tips about getting engaged or planning a successful wedding? Check out some of the posts over in our Lifestyle section.